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elizabethindfw

So ok I just got back from the hospital had some chest pains got to go to the pulmonologist tomarrow.

Anyways while sitting there waiting for my ride got into a conversation and ended up giving my phone number to this guy ( your not gonna believe how he got it from me)

So anyways he told me his name told me hed be calling and I told him that Ive got physical issues problems with obesity he could call and be my cell friend but right now I want to drop weight before I actually date.

So he says he likes big girls anyways would still like to go out I said Id consider it but that I still cant be real physical as far as men goes right now he said he was ok with that.

Then he told me that he just got out of prison 3 weeks ago and hes living in a halfway house I mean and that if I get a funny number on my phone when he calls its ok it would be him.

He says hell be very busy because he has to work a lot as a part of his rehabilitation.

I don't know yet if well go out. Nut anyways lets just say I do.

What exactly are the statistics for men going back to prison how likely is he?

What about dating after they get back into society? Do marriages stay together with exprisoners who get married after they get out verses those who marry in prison?

I know that if you marry while theyre in prison statistics for divorce are sadly high are they just as high and risky for someone who waits till he gets out to marry?

Kind of cool huh is it coincidence or fate?


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Hardik99

Glad to read your thread here. I even didn't know much about dating. But your thread helped me a lot. Thank you!

 
Michael Hannon

I don't know if I'm doing this right.. PLEASE HELP!! I tried to create a profile for my brother Michael who is locked up. But all these inmate profiles has all their information where as mine looks like a profile for people looking to write inmates. How do I create a profile for an inmate? 

 
PixieWings

You'd be surprised what little info an identity their needs to find out anything about you. I just watched a program that said with two pieces of information someone could find out everything about you and steal your identity etc.

I once got a cell number from a guy in California, we chatted briefly on the phone. Later I googled his number and just using google I found out his real name, and then his facebook.

Not only can you find real names and facebook, but basically everything they have connected to the number. I had a guy give me his number at work...i was bored a few days later so i googled the number, found his facebook, twitter...and the fact he will married and his wife was pregnant...

 
februarymoon

I read somewhere that 1 in 8 Texans will be locked up at some point in their life - be it juvenile hall, a night in county jail or a prison sentence. I had to go to Walmart here yesterday. I saw more than 8 people there so chances are high that I saw someone who has been locked up at some point.

 
sunray's wench

The reason why I brought that up is just because he might or might not ask me but sense I had never been approached by an ex prisoner...

But that's just it, you wont know if you've been approached by an ex-inmate unless he tells you. Not all of them will announce it in the first sentence of their chat-up routine.

You live in Texas, right? The chances of you being in the same room as ex-inmate is extremely high if you go to a hospital, bus station, mall, Walmart, etc. Your state releases 70,000 inmates every year (off paper, or on parole). They (thankfully) don't have to walk around wearing a badge to say so.

I think Josh might be on the right lines with his comments. But either way, 1 in 3 marriages end in divorce regardless of the individual circumstances.

 
JoshA

I never ever said he gave me his phone number and as for me giving him mine mine is a cell number only which Ive done for several men before who didn't know me. But my cell is safe and you cant trace my address by it and he doesn't have my last name. If I were to meet him it would be to meet in a public place only but I give my cell number out to guy friends I meet on the net so. But if you don't want to believe I don't care don't believe ..................but its not dangerous for me to give out my cell sorry

You'd be surprised what little info an identity their needs to find out anything about you. I just watched a program that said with two pieces of information someone could find out everything about you and steal your identity etc.

I once got a cell number from a guy in California, we chatted briefly on the phone. Later I googled his number and just using google I found out his real name, and then his facebook.

 
JoshA

So ok I just got back from the hospital had some chest pains got to go to the pulmonologist tomarrow.

Anyways while sitting there waiting for my ride got into a conversation and ended up giving my phone number to this guy ( your not gonna believe how he got it from me)

So anyways he told me his name told me hed be calling and I told him that Ive got physical issues problems with obesity he could call and be my cell friend but right now I want to drop weight before I actually date.

So he says he likes big girls anyways would still like to go out I said Id consider it but that I still cant be real physical as far as men goes right now he said he was ok with that.

Then he told me that he just got out of prison 3 weeks ago and hes living in a halfway house I mean and that if I get a funny number on my phone when he calls its ok it would be him.

He says hell be very busy because he has to work a lot as a part of his rehabilitation.

I don't know yet if well go out. Nut anyways lets just say I do.

What exactly are the statistics for men going back to prison how likely is he?

What about dating after they get back into society? Do marriages stay together with exprisoners who get married after they get out verses those who marry in prison?

I know that if you marry while theyre in prison statistics for divorce are sadly high are they just as high and risky for someone who waits till he gets out to marry?

Kind of cool huh is it coincidence or fate?

Throwing in a word of caution, some ex-inmates try to find a place to live once they are forced out of prison or a halfway house. Of course I have no idea if this guy is like that but I wanted to warn you of being used. You seem to have a big heart and unfortunately it is people like you that sometimes get taken advantage of. I saw tread carefully.

I wish you all the best, Josh :)

 
NorthernLight

Well some people must agree with her...she got four green reputation marks today. LOL!

 
Ozalee

We all have problems in our lives and I think that she is not alone to know what is a world of hurt :) Maybe........................................Maybe maybe maybe inmates have a very good idea of this ^^ and personnaly i am more interested to write to enjoy a lot someone than writing him all the problems of the life :) (that wouldn't say that i write like a teddybear huh? Lol xD)

 
Henrietta

It´s confusing and a bit depressing.... I think I have to read some of our crazy dreamboat post so I can go to bed smiling and in a good mood. :errrr:

 
rainy daze

If she is I feel bad for her; she's in for a world of hurt- and some inmate is in for.... well just read the posts....

 
Earthmother

LOLIS THIS WOMEN FOR REAL:rollinglaugh:

Kinda hoping the answer is a resounding NO......

 
Ozalee

Hello,

I do not understand your post and also the fact that you are as much in the defensive of the “judgement”…: (I do not have the feeling which you are really clear on your motivations which push you with poster here….
I do not judge the fact that you are for though it is, and I respect the fact that you have a long way to traverse due to your disease. I wish you besides a good courage because the life does not spoil us inevitably. The way is hard for certain and it is true that it is necessary to be armed with courage and will.
On the other hand, I will wish to return on your posts. I have a little the feeling to see one “yes, but not, but I do not know, but in any manners everyone always criticizes me”. It is a little disconcerting, more especially as certain people here try to help you.
I do not go épiloguer, because moreover, to think so that I will tell you in English will take too much time to me, therefore I directly write this message on “google translation”.
I request from you, Madam, to cease poster of the messages which indicates things confused and full with contradiction towards yourself. Nobody knows what to tell you when that concerns you because you are always on the defensive. And I do not draw from conclusion hasty…. I often do not post, but I read much. And it is that which I note since your arrival.

 
blondgal

LOLIS THIS WOMEN FOR REAL:rollinglaugh:

 
NorthernLight

This member has posted about every stereotype that people have in regards to those that write inmates. Women in particular. I think weve all been had. If not, its VERY disturbing.

 
Henrietta

Ok, thank you Earthmother :)

 
Earthmother

OP = Original Poster...meaning the person who started the thread.

 
Henrietta

What does OP means? This Swedish woman doesn´t understand... :)

 
Anonymous

Maybe It´s just me, but if I ended up in the hospital with chest pain, the last thing I would think about is going on a date. Ex prisoner or not. I would be too worried about my health to be able to think about anything else. I don´t get it! :dunno:

Or you might be thinking...dayum! I'm picking up dudes everywhere I go.... heart pains...hospital...no problem...I'm still scorin' digits! :P

As to the OP...I don't think you can tell one way or the other about someone because of their "ex con" status...chances are... once a con always a con but...some do change and live a productive life. I do believe in fate so.........maybe you were fated to meet this guy. But it seems like you have a lot of things going on in your own life...and it's likely best to get your life settled before bringing dates into the mix. However, I've never been on to do anything on the advice of another so...do whatever you want...it's your life...live it up :)

 
Henrietta

Maybe It´s just me, but if I ended up in the hospital with chest pain, the last thing I would think about is going on a date. Ex prisoner or not. I would be too worried about my health to be able to think about anything else. I don´t get it! :dunno:

 
melanieann

Yep !!!!!!! :agroan1:

 
lollyann

I just think everything about your posts spill bullshit and attention seeking behaviour .You contradict yourself in every post .It is seriously just wasting forum time even answering you .

 
NorthernLight

I never said he gave you his number. :)

Its nice that you found someone to date. Best of luck to you.

 
Taivas

[SIZE=1]Earthmother....glad you said the grammar thing, as little as it is...I was going to explode![/SIZE]

 
Earthmother

Of course released inmates date. Hell, some of them are so anxious to jump into a relationship that they'll jump onto anything that passes. Not all of them are like that, and I don't think anyone here is trying to be judgmental about inmates. Most of us made a conscious choice to write to inmates, so we tend to be more empathetic towards the inmate population, I believe.

I think what NorthenLight is trying to say that from your forum postings, it doesn't seem as if you are the type who would truly consider having a relationship with an inmate -whether released or incarcerated - because of the rather rigid parameters you seem to have regarding criminals. Truthfully, it almost seems as if you are seeking some sort of bad boy thrill - as long as it's from a safe distance - but an inmate/ex-inmate isn't a toy...and I'm sorry, but your postings come across as if that is the case.

And the defensiveness doesn't really do you any favours either. No one here is going to coddle you. Of course we don't know you; just as you don't know any of us. But if youre going to accuse "us" of being judgmental, I think it behooves you to turn the mirror upon yourself as well?

Plus the grammar police within me just has to say: it's SINCE, not sense.

 
Moonlampje

I think they call that Munchausen... Not trying to be rude here, but this kind of behavior got me wondering...

 
Lydya

I never ever said he gave me his phone number and as for me giving him mine mine is a cell number only which Ive done for several men before who didn't know me. But my cell is safe and you cant trace my address by it and he doesn't have my last name. If I were to meet him it would be to meet in a public place only but I give my cell number out to guy friends I meet on the net so. But if you don't want to believe I don't care don't believe ..................but its not dangerous for me to give out my cell sorry

Take a chill pill :achillpill: You need one.
How are we supposed to know you have a cell especially for hookups? I don't even give my number out to my coworkers, let alone some dude I meet at a hospital. It's even stranger that you told him you can't do anything physical as far as men go... you just met the guy! At the moment I just want to believe you made the story up to get some attention out of us, because it's much worse if it's true that you really give out your number as easily as that and basically tell them "Whelp, I would want to have sex but I can't yet.. just hang around a few more months." You're setting yourself up for a world of hurt if it's true...

 
elizabethindfw

sorry about misspelled words its early dtaunh is meant to be dating

 
elizabethindfw

Of course what your really saying though is that men who get released from prison don't date. Because in order for a man to date he either has to strictly date someone that hes known all his life through his family or something or else hes gonna have to give out his phone number to a woman he doesn't know how else do you think hes going to be able to date? So your assuming and claiming the behavior or 100 percent of every man whos gets released concerning dtainh which is ridiculous presumptuous your not God you don't know didly about this God that's rea;; wow judgementala nd rude and you don't know didly about me so if you want to call it BS go ahead but that's about the crudest post anyones eevr sent me and its rude

 
elizabethindfw

I never ever said he gave me his phone number and as for me giving him mine mine is a cell number only which Ive done for several men before who didn't know me. But my cell is safe and you cant trace my address by it and he doesn't have my last name. If I were to meet him it would be to meet in a public place only but I give my cell number out to guy friends I meet on the net so. But if you don't want to believe I don't care don't believe ..................but its not dangerous for me to give out my cell sorry

 
NorthernLight

Is it coincidence or fate? I think it's neither. How likely do I think that you met someone that was just released from prison and that you actually gave him your phone number? Not likely. I call BS on the whole thing. Someone that wanted WAP to pull their letter and is going to get a PO box so that inmates that are [U][U][I]currently[/I][/U][/U] incarcerated do not have their address, doesn't give a stranger their phone number, much less one that just got out of prison. What if he was in for murder? No, I don't think it's likely that you gave him your phone number. I wouldn't run out and buy a wedding dress just yet.

 
elizabethindfw

Oh no I didn't mean Im interested in marrying him at all I miscommunicated. The reason why I brought that up is just because he might or might not ask me but sense I had never been approached by an ex prisoner I just started thinking about that its just a topic that popped up in my mind but no I don't even know if Im gonna go out with him. Like I said Ive got a long way to go on my weight issues anyways. But it was just a question that popped up in my mind because of the situation and I was just wondering is all.Its interesting though wonder how long hes been in.

 
februarymoon

OK he said he might call you. But he might not. Why are you thinking out dating and marriage when all he's said is that he might want to call you?

I get the impression you don't have much experience with the opposite sex. And that's fine. We all start somewhere. Take things slowly, would be my advice. You'll scare him off if he finds out that you have been asking about marriage.

In terms of recidivism, it depends on his crime. Statistically, murderers are least likely to re-offend. Robbers are most likely to re-offend. Food for thought since you previously dismissed murderers and sent a letter to a robber.