Often I found myself gazing off in the distance. “How did I allow myself in relationships with those who pretended to have my best interest at heart?” Smiling faces masked hidden agendas, impure motives, mixed with deception or betrayal. Through my “learning pains” birthed a positive theory of love…Love is respect, love is trust, commitment. Love is wanting to be with that person “only that person”. Love is admiring your partner’s strengths; accepting their weakness. Love is having an argument, talking out a solution. Love is being angry, then making up. Love is having patience when your mate gets on your nerves. Love is being wrong, not being afraid to say, “I was wrong, I apologize”.
Love is sharing happiness, sorrow, anger, frustration, passion, ecstasy. Love is consideration, thoughtfulness. It is making a mistake, learning from it. I’ve learned that it’s expressing your true feelings verbally as well as physically. It isn’t necessarily physical, it is mentally. It’s knowing the difference between that and lust. It is making sacrifices, compromising. It is taking responsibility for your actions, whether it’s good or bad. Love is unconditional, it has no boundaries, it knows no limits. It’s quality time spent with that special someone, missing them later. It’s a shoulder to cry on, to laugh with, or to cuddle with. It’s a listening ear just when you need to talk, it is being friends as well as lovers. It is forgiveness, but not stupidity. It’s not blind. Love is knowing yourself as well as your partner. It is agreeing to disagree. It has its good times, bad times. Love is not a fairy tale. It’s a reality. Love is believing, having faith in your partner. It is team work, not one side. It’s precious and rare…Learning pains, share yours??