To my viewers, where or not, if we connect or you find a connection with another individual, always know that you and I – meaning whoever you decide to communicate with – have the ability to dictate how we can relate, or converse, with each other. Don’t allow stereotypical notions of an old saying hold you back, like “all inmates are bad”, because that’s not true. You can’t judge a book by its cover and don’t let past experiences too immediately after your personal future as you get to know someone. You have to be mindful of what you reinforce by thoughts, words, and deed.
We as inmates and you as honorable women, have the ability to change ourselves, those around us, and our communities, if we decide to do so. It’s called giving individuals a second chance! It’s like the game of chess, the king is the most valuable piece on the board, with the wrong move, it’s check, or check mate. But on the other hand, the Queen is the most valuable piece of all piece’s, because she can move in ways no other piece can and without a Queen by our side encouraging us to keep fighting, what’s the point of keeping the hope alive?
So, Ladies, you all have the ability to be agents of change. The question is, are you willing to take the risk, open your hearts, and step out there to create new, uplifting relationships/friendships that’ll be cherished for a lifetime?
Remember this quote “Behind every good man is a good woman” – (author unknown), but I like to thing of it as “Besides” and not behind.
Ladies, maybe your doubting what I’m saying, maybe not! But I do believe I have some insight into women, through often times in the face of my own fears, I choose to ignore it. As for myself, Ladies, I had the privilege of knowing many amazing women in my lifetime, as a grandson, a son, a nephew, a friend, once a lover. I had no other choice but to learn. I know deep down inside my heart, every woman has unique goals, dreams, wants, and desires, but my opinion to what I think women want as follows: Women want to be heard, they want to e taken seriously, they want to have a friendship, or a relationship with a man who appreciates their intellect, but still finds then sexy and desirable. Women want a man who is not the kind of person who disappears at the first sign of trouble. Women want someone they can argue with, without feeling like they are being bullied or patronized, someone who might disagree with them, but will not disrespect or disregard them. A real woman wants a man who isn’t afraid to show affection and be vulnerable when needed.