A question

I think i would be a little possesive.Just keeping it real off course i want my palls to have like hundreds of pen palls but still...Id rather not know.

I dont believe in a ''rule'' about it by the way.

I've thought about this one before to be honest, and to tell you the truth i wouldn't have a problem. The only time i would forsee a problem is if games started being played, i'm not into that crap at all.
The way i look at it is.....
I'm no bodies property nor them mine. I think trust and friendship is the key, even if you are in a relationship. I would never tell my husband who he may befriend or him me.

Smiley, Once again I agree with you whole heartedly!!! I hope all of my PPs write to others. I really don't care who they are or what they say...The exception of course being my man. I don't care if he writes others but he better be acting right if he does. I am not end to games nor will I be played. I would want to know that just so I can move on.

I agree - I wants my PP's to have as many friends as they can. Also, I've made it clear I'm not looking for love, and they might be, so it wouldn't be fair on them if I only wanted them to write to me. One of my PP's has recently updated his ad and I've just written saying I hope his new picture gets him sackloads of mail!

By the way, if anyones looking for a new PP -I can let you have his name...he's 35 and in NC - we've been writing for 6 months and he's a great guy.

I would rather not know who my pen pal is writing too but I could honestly care less. I've even gone as far to revise the text in her ad and pay for the changes made. I get about 2-3 letters a week and probably send as many and when I don't have the inclination to write I send post cards of the city she's imprisioned in with small messages. (I even recently sent one of the courthouse she was convicted is as well. Gotta love Ebay.) I know some people have a major problem with this but it's silly especially if your pen pal is in a Texas prison becuase they don't get phone calls as well as some other states that I don't know so mail is the only life line to the real world. I'm not close enough where I've visted yet and even if I did it wouldn't be a regular thing so $.39 to spill my guts seems like a baragin. It wouldn't bother me a bit but like I said I don't want to know who and I don't want to be discussed either as my personal business is mine just as I would expect from anybody.

My pal is my pal's pal and i love em both.

I swear blackwidow you are reading my mind 2day cos that is why i wanted an answer to my question. my pal is also my pal's pal and they are both my bestest pals... hugstoyou

I think a similar thread like this came up and I am totally cool with it and would actually prefer my PP have other WAP people to some degree. I am not looking for any exclusive, heavy romance thing and only someone to chit chat with. Thats how I feel at least but I guess another might get weird about it. Shrug.

hugsfromheretoluca

I think we need to be realistic here. I am like some of you, I don't want to know if my pp is writing to someone else. He did say that other women have answered his ad, however he has requested to be removed from the web-site. I wait until I see it removed and then I will believe it, until then I am glad he is still my PP.

i no one of my pals are, and im okay with it. all i ask for is honesty, nothing more nothing less. =)

I have no problem with my pals writing others as long as honestly goes all the way around.

Just out of curiosity, I asked my PP if his ad on WAP has been successful in bringing many letters...he replied with "I have only gotten letters from you and a few men wanting to come do naughty things to me when I get out (to which I write them back and politely decline), so it looks like its me and you from here on out!"

-Amy

I must confess something very creepy though when i really thought this out. I would be irritated I think if one of my PPs was writing someone not from WOP. Why, I cant tell you exactly but i think its just because i trust this site over many others as having actually the best interests of the prisoners and people that write them in mind. Like, i would be nervous for some reason about an outside site or a random person. However I DO stay out of my pals business as far as other pals.

I came, looking for a PP, to make their day brighter. Why would I deny them other friends? I have sponsored my PP's ad, on WAP, for three years now and she has gotten many interesting responses.
Yes . . my PP has off handidly said that she would not like me writing to someone else. But, in her world, she has nothing to call her own. So, a friend must seem very precious.

I came, looking for a PP, to make their day brighter. Why would I deny them other friends? I have sponsored my PP's ad, on WAP, for three years now and she has gotten many interesting responses.
Yes . . my PP has off handidly said that she would not like me writing to someone else. But, in her world, she has nothing to call her own. So, a friend must seem very precious. Something to call their own.

Thats nice that you sponsor the ad (-:...I mean i guess I might just be a realist here, Im in my 30s now and have seen plenty of relationship turmoil and am now more laid back about it...hell, i would probably do just fine in one of those polygomist (spelling) households with one man and a few wives, simple because you have like 5 or 6 women doing all the housework and childcare and working...I could get over some jealousy in seconds flat...hahahah just kidding.

I've recently had this come up, not specifically with WAP message board buddies (maybe, maybe not) but the issue of "do you write to anyone else?" I just received a letter today from my fav pp who asked: "Do you write to anyone else? And no, that's NOT ok!" I'm not sure what to do, I write to several people and enjoy it, but I don't want to jeopardize the friendship that he and I have. I'm considering not telling him but that goes against my personality as I am ALL about honesty! Who knew this could be so complicated?? :-)

mrshunter...I do feel your dillema. I don't know if this is good advice....but has come in useful for me in the past "It's easier to get forgiven, than permission". LOL. Seriously though...I think it all depends on how serious your relationship/friendship is. If you are more serious with one...and just friends with the other...I would probably just let it ride. Besides, there's nothing worse than being jealous & feeling helpless at the same time. Even if you come out & tell the truth....& you stop writting the other...he may not really believe it...or at least, question it. So until you know for sure what's right for you....I wouldn't say anything. Or you may write & explain that if you were to write others....it's out of friendship only. Let him warm up to the idea. I guess you'll just have to go with your gut instincts.

mrshunter,

I think you should be able to tell him. If you can't be honest at this point in the relationship when can you be? I think you go with your character. . .and be ALL about honesty.

I would b hurt due to the fact that he has taken his add off wap and i do soooo much for him butt yes i do think about if n e wap members write him matter of fact is n e one here writing to a blk male who is 26 and in a cali prison ? just wondering..... :0

Hi mrshunter,
I agree with, wistuco. I think that you need to clear the air and have a serious "heart to heart" talk with your PP. You have a life to live and he has a life to live. But, neither one of those lives should be a restriction on the other. After thinking about it, it is hopeful that he will understand. If not understand, then simply get used to it.

Just be honest dont go against your nature to please him! Just be honest to him you brighten his day and try to do it to someone else as well you aint doing anything wrong!

gangstawifey a 26 year old black male in a cali prison, there is alot of them!!

I know for a fact my pals have other people writing them and Im perfectly fine with it.

umm mzslizzy i all ready kno that sweetie..lol