As you know I still haven't heard from my special CA pal, so have been seriously thinking of calling his Grandparents to see if I can get some answers. I'm sorry but I just can't move on - still think of him frequently and need some answers. He means a lot to me, so I'm not going to just let him slip away. I know he liked me a lot - it was evident in his letters to me.
Anyway, my problem is I'm just kinda chicken to call them and seem to bring myself to do it even though I keep saying it - guess its easier said than done, right?! I still haven't even called my other pal's mom yet - my pal wanted me to call her. The same reason applies here!
So, how do I break this chicken spell?
Jessica :)
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November 12, 2005 - 9:54pm
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Canadiangirl2976
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I know how you feel, Jessica. I am a chicken too. :-)
Just grit your teeth, swallow hard, and then do it. Soon, you will be beyond the point of no return, and the deed will have been done. You will feel much better, when it is over. :-) And, you will laugh at yourself, I'm sure.
Bite the bullet, and go for it :) Whats the worst that could happen? If you walk away not knowing, it may just be "the on that got away"...
good advice, listen to them and your heart.
I agree with everyone here, GO FOR IT!
why call his GRANDPARENTS?????ring the prison and see if he is ok and if he is then maybe just guess he might not want to write to you anymore. no sense wasting time on someone who wont waste it on you. there are so many others who would love your time. good luck
Why not call his Grandparents? I've tried calling the prison once and didn't get much out of them, so think calling his Grandparents would be better! This will be my final attempt and that's it - if something is wrong than they'll probably know!! I was given their contact information from him and he said if something happens I could get in touch with them...since I haven't heard from in awhile, maybe something has happened. Whatever I find out, good or bad, at least I'll know I realy tried absolutely everything I could. I'm not someone who gives up so easily - that is just not me!!
If I really didn't feel so strongly about this particular pal than I wouldn't bother with him, but I really do. I have other pals, but none of them are him at all.
Jessica
Jessica, i talked to my pals uncle this morning he called me out of the blue i didnt even know he was going to, todays experience was good for me his uncle is 74 and lovely gentleman and he did most the talking, i would just bite the bullet and do it jessica, call them up, introduce yourself by your full name tell them your calling from canada, and explain that your a friend of their grandson and as you hadnt heard from him in a while you were concerned let them know he gave you there contact info in case of situations just like this when you havent heard from him, lots of older folks get nervous about people asking questions especially considering they arent expecting your call and dont know who you are, perhaps just ask if hes ok and send a short message threw them like i hope hes ok let him know im still thinking of him etc. Remembering this might also place them in an uncomfortable position not knowing who you are to there grandson, they might be uncomfortable telling you certain personal info about him ie he married his gf, hes had a mental break down, etc
You will probably feel so much better for having given it a go, and its perfectly ok to feel nervous and hesitate thats human, as is the desire to know whats going on
so go on and spread those chicken wings and fly
Jessica
Is he in a state that has an inmate locator?
perhaps you could check there to see if he has been moved?
honey DO IT - get your answers - it's not like u have to face him in the supermarket every dy if you feel embarrassed is it and hell - it's closure (if that's what it is) xx
Just wanted to thank those of you who posted for your messages. I AM going to call and break this chicken spell!! hehehe
No matter what the outcome of it is, I know I have nothing to lose.
Jessica :)
Well, I'm planning to make that call shortly and my nerves are really building up now! Think I need a few drinks before calling!! hehehehe The thing that worries me the most is that maybe my pal's Grandparents won't like me or something.
Jessica
Jess how could they not like you??? The worse could be if they cant hear, and then you have to shout through the whole conversation. But I think you need to do this, to get some closure.
hey canadiangirl,so what happened?did u phone them?i hope everything went well hunny :-) keep us posted wont you x
Going to make myself a cup of tea to calm me down before calling! I will keep u all posted.
Put some bourbon in it Jess. =)
a cup of tea sounds great lol...think thats what i need!im very excited 2 hear the outcome of this canadiangirl,once again i hope all goes well x
canadiangirl,no I am the BIGGEST chicken ever!!lol..it took me months before i gained enough courage to call Lars mom and I still havent spoke with his dad(he is a religious freak)though my own mother has, since she is a reverand..hang in there.. have a few drinks and then call his grandma.. what do you have to lose? god forbid he cannot write to you right now, he would WANT you to contact her so that you could find out... go for it!- and let us know how it went...
I've called already - check the Its Done post!
Jessica