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marilenastyl87

I always wondered why people who have or were being abused are sometimes given a cigarette and not directed to a legal resolution or psychological healing of the abuse. It has come to my attention that quite often when women are somewhat abused they are getting privilege that heavily abused women do not get. In fact, quite often, heavily abused women, such as prostitutes, survivors of assault or violence-gender based or otherwise-do not see the justice that comes with healing that sometimes their middle class counterparts find. It comes with two things: first they are given a cigarette and told to deal with it like an adult, or second they are seen as dirty or deserving of the abuse. I mean, it must be easier to say this than go to a healing process because it would challenge assumptions about who is who and what the sterotypes surrounding certain people around us are. Now, don't get me wrong with this. As the myth about the bed of Procrustes says he would either sever the head or the feet if they wouldn't fit-placing the violence of the social body either to the high class, that quite often seeks to disengage itself from the "common people", or to the lower classes that come with warnings about crime, moral debasement etc. That being said, the middle class is seen as not a place of violence. They are wrong. The middle class woman may in fact face violence herself. She is also ridden with connotations about being spoiled, not in terms of social identity-but actually in terms of how she is immaculate from the violence that traverses the higher and lower levels of the social body. Also, the myth of Procrustes makes another point: he would pull and exert and contort the body to fit the Procrustean bed. This is quite a middle class habitus. Setting goals, achievement etc. So as you can see there are many kinds of violence. But i just haven't figured out why talk about justice fades out when there is too much of the abuse and not just some managable or visible part to it. You have Debb or actors complaining or making a legal case out of harrassment, but the invisible abuse and violence in the system is quite extensive.