Have your pals asked if you write to other inmates?

No one has asked me ; one just told me has other penpals. They have all asked me why I would want to write inmates though. 

1) some did, others did not. Those who did mostly combined it with saying they have no other penpals.

2) Ask me to stop? No, never. Probably they know I wouldn't, which is sth. they couldn't control anyway.

 One of my pps stated he'd keep me so busy that "there will be no need for other penpals after me." ;-). Well, so far, this is true. Which still doesn't mean I'd never pick another one if I felt I'd have enough time & ressources or if someone's profile would really speak to me again.

3) No, they don't ask about each other. As long as everyone keeps on getting his own letters, I hear no complaints or questions.

4) Hm... as I said, they don't. But if they did: fear of abandonment? Fear of "not being good enough"? Probably sth. along these lines. 

No, I don't have guys who are making a fuss or a drama out of things. It's better that way anyhow. I've never been very jealous or possesive myself, let alone allowed anyone to pin me down. (If you did your astro right- you said, you're into it- you know right now, what sign my Venus is in). ;-) .

No, seriously, when I say, "I'm there" I'll be there, but when I am, I am voluntarily. Relationship or friendshipwise, I've never been the right one to be forced or coaxed into anything I did not want to be in. And I guess, they sense it. I'm not telling a guy what to do, never did,- but live and let live definitely goes both ways. 

It's a mixed bag, some do, others don't. I'm honest with all my penpals, they know I write others because I'm forthcoming about it in the beginning... starting friendships with lies is generally not a good thing and usually blows up somehow later on... and they're okay with it because I've clarified I'd never write anyone in their state/facility, anyone in close proximity to them. I've never really had problems with them knowing, early on when I first started I think I had two who stopped writing when they found out I wrote to others, but nothing much developed in those cases anyway. As for why they would ask, that's a good question. Inmates can be kind of possessive of the people they write, so perhaps it could have something to do with that. I suspect the two I had wanted to be more than friends, otherwise why would it matter if I wrote others or not. I'm really at a loss though. They suppport me in my friendships and I support and encourage them in theirs. 

Heh, kinda the opposite for me!  Last month my PP actually included a slip of paper with some questions from one of their friends (I guess that means they must talk about me/being a pp?) . The questions were all technical stuff in my field, so I replied, and in my latest letter, PP actually included a whole double-sided letter from the other guy, firstly thanking me for answering his questions, then adding some more! PP sort of apologised for his friend's exuberance but was at great pains to say how trustworthy he was, etc. So he basically said, "reply to this guy, I vouch for him"! :) I ended up replying to both of them, I've said to PP that I'm answering his friend's questions, but we don't have the same conversations about more personal stuff. 

I'm happy with this, clearly the fact that the second guy wrote a list of questions for me, shows that PP has been talking about our letters, so I think that's fine.

I don't have the time or energy to write more than one person! He's enough work as it is! Haha! Not that I'd change him for the world.

@hse_ping I do love the rapport when you get their friends chiming in on conversations, letters, etc! Just adds another dynamic to your interaction.

@spriggs I feel the same way, but let me add no one else really interests me. 

Yeah @ILL_PPP I get what you're saying, I chose this PP based on his bio, and I've built up a sort of relationship with him over the last few months (platnonic), whereas I don't know this other guy at all, not that he even has a PP advert, but I don't know anything at all about him. At the moment he just wants to quiz me on stuff about technology (I guess they don't have Google, so I can happily comply and research stuff!!)

So, I'm happy to send messages to answer this other guys questions, but I don't think it will/can be the same relationship as I have with my original PP.

@IL_PPP Yeah, mine is my fiancé so I’m quite in to him! :-D

I have friends out here so I don’t feel the need to have another pp. That would just be taking time from my man to put in to someone else and that wouldn’t feel right to me

I have had more than one pp over the years though. 

Their property is their property and in prison you don’t touch another persons stuff without their expressed permission. They often feel the same way about their people. Not all of them of course. I’ve just found that it happens quite often.

None of my prison penpals have asked me if I write to other inmates.  I automatically assume anyone I write to writes to other people besides me and I'm completely fine with that.  It's to be expected.  No one should put all their 'eggs in one basket' socially like that - at least in my opinion.

If any of them voiced a problem with me writing to others, I would see that as incredibly controlling and it would be goodbye to them Haha Just as I would want them to do the same to me if I ever said they couldn't write anyone else (which I wouldn't) Haha

Now, if I was writing to other inmates in the same facility (which I never would) - I can understand.  That would be a little insulting and perhaps even disrespectful to them. 

Although it makes me slightly jealous, my pal has another pal he met thru this site. But I try to maintain the attitude that he’s free to write to whomever he pleases and that outside connections are very important to helping them maintain sanity and some semblance of normalcy. I just hope he’s not saying the same stuff to her LOL

I volunteered in one of the first letters I write to another pal (cali, tho, I haven’t written to him since early December :( I just don’t know what to say), and he came across as being slightly jealous although he tried to suppress that with humor. He still inquires to whether I still hear front Cali or if I’m sad Texas didn’t take off, and asks if I’m going to write to another new person. I reassure him I’m not interested but that he and I have hit it off and so he’s my number one.

I’ve looked at other pals, but I’m not sure I’ll be able to emulate what I have with Illinois. I’m not sure I want to try. So for now, at least, I just have the one. 

It gets to that point and for me I don't really even want to write anyone else.. I look at other profiles from time to time out of curiousity. But I've spent probably 5 or 6 years doing this and I've only ever developed this sort of connectiion with anyone once.. Which is a good sign I probably shouldn't be writing anyone else right at this moment. I sometimes have joked about it to her, but she says "please don't write to anyone else in this prison." With good measure I guess... She thought when I first met her that I was writing someone else where she is and we had a good old argument about that and I had to concede that if I did it was an accident and I wouldn't do it because I've been doing this thing for long enough that I know that kind of thing wont end well for anyone.

Some states doesn't allow including content written by others, they frame that as e-mail forwarding and blacklist people who do that, because that's a way to circumvent the mail blacklists.

Have you checked the mail rules of the state where your penpal is at, to make sure this isn't going to get you or him into trouble?

Well..it's very early days..but in his 1st letter B was friendly & cordial..asked friendship type ..getting to know you questions....he was replying to a birthday card and a 20$ bday gift..the card actually got there before the e mail from here did....then the 2nd letter...he'd just received the e mail from here...he wrote he loved my pic..the dynamics seemed to me to have changed slightly in that letter...he called me doll face & baby girl..(.which I'm not keen on) he did ask how I knew to apply funds to his account and if I'd done this before..I told him I have jpay to keep in touch with Lu..my Michigan friend..and that I write with her on jpay....still awaiting his 3rd letter...so...to be continued.......

I try to put something subtle in the first letter to indicate that I write other people. Usually it's something like "I've been writing to people for a few years...." I always ask my pps how many people they've heard from through their ad. I'm always genuinely curious. I've never had someone ask me how many people I write to though.