A few of my beloved pen pals are in LD/max/seg, some are in general pop. One of them in seg is pretty bored, I think. He's the new one who I found on a different website and he asked me after we've been writing for a couple letters if I could ever see myself marrying him one day, he's getting letters from his friends on the outside who are all getting married, and of course we're just PPs which he knows but I think he's totally bored and just kind of letting his mind think up lots of "different" life scenarios. He phrased it in a way that made me feel bad like "would you ever give a person like me with a record a chance if we had met under different circumstances" and of course I told him everyone makes mistakes in their youth, I don't judge people for their pasts, but I didn't wasn't being a PP to seek a person to marry (which he knows), and right now he had to focus on getting into a lower security level, getting into a good program because those were his goals. I think he just needed a little build up, TBH. He refuses to let me pay for postage and he said he wanted to pay for calls in the future, so I don't get remotely any impression he's looking for a romance scam here, I know very well he doesn't actually want marriage with me, it didn't come across in a remotely realistic way. Do you all think he was just looking for a bit of reassurance as a person and I read that situation right ? Bc I didn't get any sense he was actually being serious. Thanks for your wise counsel as always.