So I have been writing a new penpal via snail mail (only) the last couple of months. She has sent me two letters, and I just sent my third. Despite the long length of the letters, it's still very much early days.
I never thought I'd be comfortable writing someone convicted of anything sex-related. But I weighed it up, thought about it for a while and proceeded with writing this inmate - we have a lot in common and she seemed quite intelligent and capable of writing good letters.
There is nothing really wrong with her two letters, but in the most recent one (her longest) she somehow mentioned "naked" or "being naked" numerous times. There was basically no context for these instances - i.e it was randomly just thrown into the letter, or she went out of her way to somehow link it in.
I have not written anything along those lines to her. I photograph everything I send - and re-reading, I am convinced nothing I wrote could be misconstrued as flirting.
The first instance it was used was in response to me asking what daily life was like for her - prison life etc. She said she likes to get up particularly early to shower (avoid the lines) and then go back to bed so she can sleep naked(?).
The second instance was a random question, among 2-3 other random questions. "Would I prefer being seen naked by a stranger or a friend?"
Now, I'm not easily offended and I'm not offended or uncomfortable by this scenario. It only raised a potential alarm bell due to her convicted crime. A bit like writing to a drug addict that randomly starts talking about getting high, I guess. The subtle way she worked such things into the letter was a little strange (to me); particularly in only her 2nd letter. Have never encountered anyone mentioning "nakedness" so much in a seemingly non-sexual letter before Haha
Do any of you see these instances as a potential red flag here? Is it the start of predatory type behaviour?
Any feedback much appreciated!