Hey everyone. As you's guys know, I have been writing my pp for way over a year. He is being released in less than two weeks and I'm picking him up and driving him down to his halfway house down south. Anyways, I'm getting really really nervous. He claims his love for me and I do love him and care very deeply for him. He has had all his personal belongings sent to me. Well, long story short, he told me he had a surprise for me in the package. It was nice but I also found pictures of him while he was in prison with another woman claiming her love for him. The pictures were of him and her and some of the same ones he had sent me with writing on the back of them saying how she loves him. I'm having doubts now. His family calls me all the time and tells me how much he wants to be with me, not to mention that he has sent me all his personal belongings and if he didn't want me to see these pictures, he would not have sent them, right? I mean, I'm a woman, I'm nosey and I looked and found them. He basically has trusted me with every ounce of his being and confided alotta things to me. Since we have been writing, I get around 5-10 letters a week and before he went into protective custody, he was calling me every single night to say goodnight! Now? He only gets one phone call a month and he does call me. Like I said, he gets out in less than 2 weeks and I will be driving him to his halfway house. I had a really bad experience about a year ago with my ex-boyfriend. He had lied to me about a few things and since then, I do not trust very easily. Am I over reacting to these pictures? I mean, he told me to transfer all these files into a new file holder. Am I over reacting? I mean, he knew he sent them. If he had something to hide, wouldn't he of kept them with him? I mean, what do I do? Do I ask him about this? I am now having doubts for the first time with him EVER! HELP!
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P.S. I wanna make it clear that he has done nothing to make me doubt him, he has done everything right. I am thinking it's just me and I'm letting something someone else did milk over into this relationship maybe? Anyways, just need alittle input. Thank you everyone.
were the pictures before you or during the same time ?? I would say, if they were from before to not let it bother you- everyone has a right to past love.
They were from before because I can tell by the way he looked in the picture but not that long ago. It's from the same ad I answered on WAP! That's what bothers me. But like I said, he has trusted me with everything and even tried to get transferred (paroled) here but was denied. So, I guess your right. Thanks. Just got alot of left over mis-trust I guess.
[B][SIZE="3"][COLOR="Red"]Cheer up hun, you should be over the moon!
Ok the guy had pen pals before you came along....but look who he chose, YOU! Youre the one he's coming out too & wants to be with!
I bet you any money he throws them photos away when he gets out :woohoo:
Now cheer up, & start making plans, you LUCKY girl :comfort_:[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B]
Camarogirl,
You're not a bit flawed in your thinking...I would feel the same way. I would probably have to ask him about it if it were me. If he really loves you, he would want to ease your mind. There's nothing wrong with feeling a little disappointed, especially if he has led you to believe that you are the only one. I wish you the best, and remember, honesty is always key.
Why does an old flame give you mistrust after all that you posted your man has proven to you?
Dont let anyone steal your joy!
There are always going to be women trying to get ya man but who is he with?
Like that rap song says "Who you wit?"
Babi
Thank you EVERYONE for your input! I really do appreciate it and I know it's just my mistrust from a past relationship milking over onto this one and it's not fair to him. I trust him, it's my past that has made me this way and he knows this and he said not to worry, that he understood and that he would never do the things my ex did to me and I believe him 100%. Thanks everyone, I really do value all of your input!
Enjoy what you both share and remember EVERYONE has a past, it is the NOW you should be looking at, so do his actions match his words? You are right he sent all of his things to you with the full knowledge you would probably snoop and still he did not hide who he is from you, i like that, says to me he obviously values friendships formed.
I hope all goes well when you pick him up. :nod:
Just go with the flow and enjoy the moment! Don't worry and PLEASE be sure to let us all know how things go!