Puzzling Letter

Sorry to hear about your misunderstanding with your pal.
From where i stand as an outsider, that is all it looks to me. You did say you told him you would send him some money,(not him asking you to) and i guess he took you on your word, he had no reason to believe otherwise, he trusts you.
So borrowed until your promise was forfilled. I guess both of you did not forsee the hard times you were to hit. So now he has a debt that can land him in deep sh*t if not paid, and he is mad at you for not keeping your word. And there you are confused and hurt because you have explained the situation to him, but maybe a little too late? maybe he feels let down as well.
I just hope you both will sort it. Maybe next time do not speak of money and just surprise him. I am trying to see it from both sides.

Sounds like emotional blackmail to me.
The bit about loaning the amount from a friend is a way of making you feel guilty/pressured/obligated to send the money.

I,m sorry this happened to you.
I think it,s great advise I got (from WAP),to imply at the start that I,m poor,there will never be money,only friendship,and never send a thing for....ages,until they actually believe there will be no money on the scene.That established, anything sent later is up to you,but never if asked..They will always have a ned for (more)money..it still doesn,t obligate one to send.It is a sure way to sort out who,se truly sincere for the right reasons of friendship.

My PP,s have all warned me that there are so many players in there,who are happy to write for ages in order to get what they want.

I,m not saying of course,this is only the case,or this is relevant with you and your friend,but if it helps others,I see TOO MANY people hurt and used in the time I have been on WAP.It upsets and saddens me any time,especially when I think of the great PP,s who would never expect or do that.

Your repy was good and firm,I am sorry that you,ve been treated like this.Don,t take it personally,if you would,it was about money.

Raingod, the same thing happened to me with my pp Joe. He assumed I was going to send money as usual, but one month I didn't...I did, but sent it to the wrong person. I got a letter blasting me that he had borrowed money from his cellie and the cellie was riding him for the money. I wrote his cellie a letter explaining the mistake. I also told my pen pal not to assume anything in the future until it appeared on his account. I have since stopped sending him money, because I was told he was using it via stamps to gamble. He keeps asking when will I start sending him money again.

Im sorry Scott I can imagine how hurt you must feel. I am glad you wrote him back and told him whats up..Try not to be too upset cause we all know this kind of thing happens.
**** happens inside & out..seems you have been having a hard time lately.. Just know you have friends here...

I responded to you elsewhere on this matter----I think you can figure out where.
Cindy

Raingod,

I'm sorry that after all this waiting you got a nasty letter :-( Misunderstanding or not, it was still uncalled for, especially since you told him you were going to be without a job for a while. Sending money is a gift, not a given. Good response though!

I hope everything works out for you!

Thanks for the input. SP, yeah it's not been a great start to fall that's for sure. Still, I know I'm quite lucky to have my family, friends (online and off) in my life. My pp's always keep me in check before I get too enveloped into self pity. It was just a shock to read that. DAVIDO-I sure do know where to find your comment :) I guesspart of me wanted to just say F U to him; but I know my state of mind, and know misunderstandings happen, so we will see what his next letter says.