Hi everyone so I'm adult woman in my 20's I still live at home currently and this past week I finally decided to tell my mom about my PP and she wasn't exactly happy about it, what parent really would be :/ I decided that I was tired of keeping it a secret she was bound to find out anyway with the letters and phone calls. But I've just been feeling down about telling her I'm starting to regret even saying anything. She just doesn't understand we gotta into a big argument and she basically said " You're just wasting your time, He can't do anything for you, There's plenty of men in the real world what's so interesting about a man in prison!?" It's not even like that me and my PP are just friends we talk about regular mundane things and my mom just doesn't get that and she said she'll never understand why I would do something like this! Her main concern is that I'm ruining my life and that when my PP gets out which is in two years. He's going to either murder me, kidnap or assault me. Not to say that things don't happen but I also think her watching so many murder shows and The ID Channel play a big role in her mind of scenarios. Also she thinks I'm going to send him money! Which I never will! I've never sent or given any man money and I don't intend to ever! If it ever came to that and he asked I would probably end communicating. I feel like my pp is a good person and has learned from his past but I never truly no what someone's thought process is. He has been institutionalized for a while 10+ years and I know he thinks differently than me but I don't feel like as soon as he gets out he's going to butcher me! It could happen but the odds are probably 1 in a million. He's been in trouble all his life basically but this was the one time he got caught and they gave him so much time! hes not a murderer or rapist or a CM. He went in for armed robbery and I know that's bad and it could've went a completely different way and turned into murder but it didn't. I just really need some advice to feel better or if any of you have any stories about what it was like to tell your family that you were talking to someone in prison? How did it go? Did you argue or did your family stop talking to you? Or have you never told anyone? I was planning on never saying anything to my mom or family but I felt like I was keeping my PP a secret and he felt the same way if I enjoy talking with him and he makes me happy than why should I have to hide it. My mom says she doesn't understand it and she'll never understand it. But I'm an adult and I make my own decisions about who I talk to it's none of my business but I want you to be mindful and careful of what you're doing. I wish I could get he to understand but she comes from a different era. It's funny though because she's not perfect. She use to talk to and deal with "unlawful" dudes back in the day but maybe she doesn't want the same for me. I personally honest to god don't think I'm doing anything wrong! Everyone gets lonely and needs a friend. And everyone that's in prison isn't a bad person! I did the whole pen pal thing because I was really just curious! During the pandemic being stuck in the house was driving me crazy and maybe even a little sad and lonely like everyone and when I came across WAP I just got so curious about it! I took my time reading ads and going through everyone. Until I found my PP and I don't know everything just clicked like I knew he was the one :) he makes me so happy and I'm glad I reached out to him! And he feels the same way about me :) I wish I could make my mom understand but I don't think she ever will. She's kind've giving me the cold shoulder but she'll get over it, not completely but she will. She kept saying she never thought in a million years I would do something like this and she said I thought you had higher standards about this stuff! But people in prison are still people they're not all bad and they have humanity about themselves! And if I can be a good friend to them and show a little kindness than why not!
May 3, 2021 - 12:25pm#1
So I finally told my mom