So people. A friend of mine that lives in the USA as a pen friend in prison, she dint met him on this site she met him in person before he went to prison. He is doing 25-life as far as I know, anyway my friend as been having trouble with her neighbor she told her pen pal about this in general chats In not quite the words I’m using he kinda said he wouldn’t have anyone talk to her like that and he would sort it. She just laughed it off. Then a month ago the dudes car was badly damaged. When she asked her friend about this he gave two reasons maybe he was upsetting other people living near her or maybe he forgot that people in prison still know people on the outside. Do you all think this sort of stuff can and does go on? Is anyone out there worried or ever worried about people the know still out there.
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I'm going to guess that this neighbour was pissing more than one person off. However, you did mention your friend met this incarcerated guy before he went to prison. So anything is possible there.
Of course that kind of stuff does go on though. I'd probably feel a little strange if I lived in the US and used a residential address to communicate with my US-based penpals...
I think people should watch what they say to their pen pals who are into (or were) any type of organized crime culture, just to be on the safe side. It seems like most people here have law abiding backgrounds (hence some of the naive Johnny do-gooder stereotype) so we might be more shocked by casual mentions of violence, retribution over petty squabbles, etc. Doesn’t mean in this case anyone did anything, especially if the guy was a jerk, could have been ANYONE and he just pissed off the wrong wabbit one day. I’m happy having a PO Box. I sincerely doubt anyone is going to have connections they know to watch the post office 24/7. If my pen pals were released, I’d meet them in person at a coffee shop and get to know them with other people around but it’s smart to do that with anyone who is a stranger until you get to know them. You two need to come join our google hangout group, we need you !!!! Only if you want to of course but I love both your opinions on everything !
I think it really came down to that particular neighbor causing trouble with others or maybe even just a random act of vandalism. My husband has been in both the federal and state systems and has been transferred all around the US. Obviously you network and make connections wherever you go. My husband has some ties and affiliations to my State, so I would probably not mention names to him. It took me a while to just mention my other pen-pal names to him. Lol
I think it really came down to that particular neighbor causing trouble with others or maybe even just a random act of vandalism. My husband has been in both the federal and state systems and has been transferred all around the US. Obviously you network and make connections wherever you go. My husband has some ties and affiliations to my State, so I would probably not mention names to him. It took me a while to just mention my other pen-pal names to him. Lol
I guess your right you have to sometimes watch what you say I tell my boyfriend everything and I know he gets upset but it’s more because he can’t be here to help then anything else. When I first went to visit him the first thing also his mum said was watch what information you tell other inmates wife, girlfriend, family cause they can tell there family member inside who can use it to get to other prisoners. But sometimes I think you just say things in innocence without thinking.
@galapagosdiver she knew him before so he knew where she lived. But I can understand the need to be cautious when giving out addresses. But would you ever give out your address to someone you wrote too so you think?
I'd be fine giving out my residential address if we'd been communicating for a year or more on a regular basis.. But I don't see the need unless I get rid of my PO Box Haha It doesn't impact them either way. They will never be able to visit my country.