Sorry for my English, I'm a Spanish girl ...
Well, a few days ago I spend a thing a little disappointing.
I spoke with a guy from Texas, but he was locked up a month and could not use the computer. When he returned to speak I got angry because he only spoke of photos (Although I had sent him one.) He did not want to talk about the issue (because he was locked up)
I told him...."You are a stupid, and a liar"
Then I saw that i had deleted from their mailing list (Corrlinks)
Damn, is that normal?
I do not understand this behavior ....
Is this usual? or just i have been unlucky?
I feel bad ....
he did not allow me to apologize
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let me see if I understand this correctly.
He got locked up for a month, came back and didn't wanna tell you about why he got locked up? I got it right?
So... why exactly would you call him stupid and a liar? I'm just curious here....
He probably got upset because you called him a liar and stupid..... let him calm down, he might add you again. I am still wondering why you called him names though.
Try to talk to him again and see what he says..buena suerte.
Was it that you felt pressured to send more photos and he didn't want to talk, only hear about your photos and when he could get more? I could see if that could feel irritating. I guess getting upset didn't really make communications get better! If you felt he was only in it for photos, then, maybe it wasn't meant to be? There are many who will try to communicate better.
To be honest, I think saying to someone you barely know "You are a stupid, and a liar" is a bit harsh. I'm not sure he has told you any lies from what you have said the conversation went like. Guys in general in the free world don't like a woman going off on a rant at them at the best of times so I imagine it would be harder for someone in prison to take an angry tirade from a stranger. At the end of the day, all he did was ask for more photos, which in itself is a compliment. You may have been angry that all he seemed to be interested in was photos at this stage of the friendship, but men are very much visual creatures, they bond initially with a female they like to look at. Your pal is surrounded by dull grey walls, your pictures bring some sunshine and normality into his life. I think you were very harsh on him and can understand his removing you from his friends list.
Next time one of them gets angry, before you retort in anger, take a step back and think before you act. Had the guys in prison also done this, maybe they wouldn't be in prison. Anger makes us be irrational and do and say many things that we should not.
Write this one off to experience and try to be a more understanding friend with your next one, this is what they need, understanding and softness, not someone ripping them a new a$$ when they make a mistake.
I think she meant he got locked down for 1 month and his computer access restricted however does that give the OP the right to call him a liar?
Sorry for writing so confusing.
He and I were friends for months.. We are not "strangers. " But yes it's true, I was very rude .... I was really angry that for days had sent him a picture of me with a letter and a drawing .... He ignored all that and just wanted more pictures ... and always I wanted to know about the reason for his absence but he said ... "I do not want to talk about it" and I thought he was hiding something so I told liar ...
Well ... If he give me a chance... I really apologize, but i do not know how ....
By letter? I have no address in Corrlinks, he delete me from yours.
thanks for the replies. I'm going to apologize :(
If you want to apologise so badly he must have had a physical address when you first started writing before he established corrlinks you could try writing to that address
Here is a crazy idea, write to him? I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume that you have his address info since you've sent him pictures and drawings before? :)
How did you find your pal? did you find him on Corrlinks through a search for a penpal maybe? If you did, can you not find him again in the same way? If you do not have his address and he had removed you from his friends list, it may be that he will not want to add you as a friend again :( I think this pal may just be one it is best to let go and find a new one. He is hurt, you are hurt. Its hard to patch up a friendship via Corrlinks, especially if one doesn't want it any more.
I'm sorry it turned out like this for you :( Guilt is a horrible emotion and I feel for you.
To add - if you know his full name and number, what facility he is in, I could find his address very easily, so I am sure you can. Give it a go.
if he's in federal prison then just use the federal inmate locator