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Weird Letter, How should I handle it?

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jona
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I talk because of what I hear from MY pps,

That's what I hear of some of my pps too. And what I read between the lines of others. Some insist that they don't do it but 'warned' me that it's very likely that my other pps masturbate on my photos, because almost everybody did it with photos of their pps.

josephina2
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My penpal tells me that although porn isn't allowed in his state it is widely available and caters to all tastes.

josephina2
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I have to add that the inmates who are into guys don't have it easy either. My penpal is gay and has been harassed and attacked many times because of this. He has never had a sexual relationship with another inmate. Not all the gay men there are having sex with each other. I guess it is a matter of taste for him as well.

josephina2
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Hey no one is attacking you or causing drama we are just offering opinions that are different to yours. If you are going to post on a forum you will have to man up and get used to that.
Nobody had an issue with penpals doing their business to photos, the thing we were talking about was them telling us if they had. I don't see any posts saying they shouldn't or its unnatural. Also you did make a bit of a sweeping generalisation with the 90% and the DR comments.
I appreciate that's what you have heard from your friends but we are saying that's what we heard from ours. So chill out and don't have a huff. You can get some great advice here if you're prepared to take it.

Marya
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Its abit of an odd one, you can find out about the person your writing too by scanning there prison number, name ect. I've just read news reports of one of the ladies I've wrote to. I've visited her now stale facebook page so I found it only polite to send my photo & describe myself when the net contains huge amount about her crime. I'm not here to find a partner in waiting I'm here to share mutual advice, someone outside my own circle to talk too, share prison experience, recovery advice ect. Casual flirting is ok but comeon people are lonley & in jail. My ex cell mate used cover our cell wall in page 3 girls & was constantly told by co/screws to take them down but wouldnt. Jail is full of men surounded by men.

I cant agree more!! Even if you have a great friendship with your pp, and he is polite and blablabla, you must know there is at least 90% he/she is wanking with your pic. They are really lonely, its not mean, they are SO human. Sorry if i'm blunt.

And responding to the main question, you should tell this to your pp, sometimes they forget about they social skills, in prison everything is very different and its not easy to be connected with the outside world. It would be nice if you are honest and frontal with him, I'm sure he will appreciate it because you remind him how to be "inserted" to society outside prison walls. :yup:

Marya
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I'm talking about DR inmates, but yes, I get your point... :thumbup:

Its not like they are obsessed with jerking off with all pp, but the ones that arent interested in other guys are in quite a messed up situation, its not for nothing that even when we visit dressing codes are so strict. They are alowed to have fantasies, even with friends, and you wont ever know. Its human and completely natural. It doesnt mean they dont respect you. They are men........If men masturbate regulary, imagine how it must be in their situation, locked without seeing any female around.

Its not to offend anyone, this is what I think, we cant fight our needs, even the subconscious ones. Masturbation is something natural, is not something to offend. But its better when they keep it to themselves..... :yup:

Marya
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My pp is addicted to porn T_T

Marya
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I dont know why some get mad at it, assuming you all are handsome, why wouldnt someone masturbate with your pics? I talk because of what I hear from MY pps, My eyes thank god havent seen those places but I know what they tell me.
I see opinions arent accepted in this forum if you think different.
I see why there is so much drama around.

Marya
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I never said they are sexual freaks, you all got my comments so wrong. Im sorry you are so closed to others opinion.

You get offended so easily, I didnt insult, I didnt pointed anyone, I only said what I think.

I dont get why some need to be so rude just because I dont think like most of you.

I dont think they are sexual freaks, but I KNOW there is a LOT of very wild porn around, it doesnt mean they dont have preferences, as I said ITS COMPLETELY NATURAL. Its not physical, its an idea of an ideal person they have of us, a concept, just like many people have this concept about their inmate. It doesnt mean its real nor ALL of us/them feel this way. But its part of a fantasy for some.

Thats what I meant. I never used that words "crazy sexual", completely the oposite, I said its something NATURAL. If you said it its maybe because YOU think that way, I dont. Dont put in my mouth things I didnt say. I never talk about them as freaks. They are as human as we are.

You got it all wrong and instead of asking, just attacked. Maybe I used the wrong words, but you didnt think twice before "attacking me".

You v been rude. And now I am offended. There are ways of expresing what we think, you should think about how you can thinking without hurting anyone. And If I did, i'm sorry. But dont take my comment to the wrong way because I never ever treated pp as sexual freaks or something, i fact i said many times they are human and its natural.

Im out of this forum. Whats the point of being part of something that cant accept my opinions.

Marya
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Alright.
1) I never said they are crazy sexual freaks.
2) never said they ALL do that,
3) if you are goodlooking there is a chance they will do it, and its their right as its something really private and we wont questionate that. As I said, it doesnt mean they arent being respectful, they are human.

I dont like drama. it was just an opinion.

Rainydaze3
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Not all people in prison are sexual freaks, and not all sexual freaks are in prison!
If y'all need help with world peace as well, just ask :) I am here ;)

Rainydaze3
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Added point: are we all wank worthy???!!
Probably not.

EJM
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I know this is an older post but wanted to reach out and see if you would be interested in sharing your pen pal experience on a podcast. 

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