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auroraborealis

how can i send a e mail to jason because i´m new in here i write the first mail, then he wrote me a letter and i am so happy because his letter makes me happy i need to stay in touch so if someone could tell him that Aurora is missing him and if someone can tell me how to send a e mail or just letters can someone explain me please thank u so much

he is in Stateville C.C. hugs and kisses Jason!


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phillygurl

I didn't see all the responses so I am sorry to have repeated the info. It looked like it was just her post and no answers?

 
phillygurl

You can use the advanced search feature. It will narrow down the results to fit the profile that you select. I would just type in his specific age and the state he is from and whether he is gay or strait etc etc.

Or you can use the inmate locator. I don't know the link but on Google type in inmate locator and the state that he is in. His info will come up if he is incarcerated. It will tell you what prison he is in and you can look up that prison's address.

I feel like there must be an easier way to go about this but I don't know it. Maybe someone else can give you that info.

 
auroraborealis

i try to use jpay but it is not allowed

 
Amantha

[QUOTE=SidVicious;1177133]Maybe these words aren't such a massive deal to me because I come from a place where people will call you sweetie, honey, darling, and other terms of endearment while holding the door open for you. Maybe they don't do that in Canada. Maybe they don't do that in Wyoming. Maybe they don't do that in Japan. Maybe he ended his letter to her with something like "okay, sweetie, I'll end this letter now." [B]Whatever words are used is between them.[/B] If he gets a little creeped out about it then that's her place to correct him on that. Isn't one of the the joys of the pen pal thing learning about each other anyway? Maybe it's a good topic of discussion for them.[/QUOTE]

Exactly x100.

 
SidVicious

Actually, I think many people would agree that an awareness of cultural differences is important. For example, in England, lots of people will call you "Luv", especially seemed so while I was living in the North East of England. It gets used simply as a title most of the time. For example, if a woman runs into a man in the street he might say “Watch where you’re going, luv!” Similarly, if you walk into a café, whether you’re a man or a woman, the waitress might as you “What are you having, luv?” This is a word that’s more often used to address strangers among the working and middle classes and not typically among the upper classes. At first it is really weird, but then someone will explain it doesn't mean anything in particular and is just part of the culture. Yet you don't usually walk around Canada referring to everyone whose path you cross as "Luv" because it does mean something different over here. People in the Southwest of England will call people "My lover", and again, it is just a cultural term of greeting. Referring to someone as "my lover" has a different context in North America - a rather intimate, carnal context.

How many times have people written on here about the emotional vulnerability of inmates and not giving them the wrong idea, if one's intentions are purely platonic? So yes, i think it could be argued that pointing out how things can or may be taken out of context is not a bad thing.

Look, if OP is indeed a prison boyfriend shopper, then more frickin' power to her. Whatever. Let her hug, kiss, and miss away. More food for the stereotype mill.

Maybe these words aren't such a massive deal to me because I come from a place where people will call you sweetie, honey, darling, and other terms of endearment while holding the door open for you. Maybe they don't do that in Canada. Maybe they don't do that in Wyoming. Maybe they don't do that in Japan. Maybe he ended his letter to her with something like "okay, sweetie, I'll end this letter now." Whatever words are used is between them. If he gets a little creeped out about it then that's her place to correct him on that. Isn't one of the the joys of the pen pal thing learning about each other anyway? Maybe it's a good topic of discussion for them.

 
Metaxu

Look, if OP is indeed a prison boyfriend shopper, then more frickin' power to her. Whatever. Let her hug, kiss, and miss away. More food for the stereotype mill.

Yeah. Just take a peek at the comments section of the Unabomber article on Yahoo (posted on another thread this morning).

 
Earthmother

Oh, okay. So any non-American who wants to write to an American prisoner needs to take classes on American culture and forget about their own communication style that is embedded in them before writing that first letter. Is someone going to do the opposite with the American prisoner? Make them take classes on whatever foreign culture before they write back, in order to save feelings and all of that.

Actually, I think many people would agree that an awareness of cultural differences is important. For example, in England, lots of people will call you "Luv", especially seemed so while I was living in the North East of England. It gets used simply as a title most of the time. For example, if a woman runs into a man in the street he might say “Watch where you’re going, luv!” Similarly, if you walk into a café, whether you’re a man or a woman, the waitress might as you “What are you having, luv?” This is a word that’s more often used to address strangers among the working and middle classes and not typically among the upper classes. At first it is really weird, but then someone will explain it doesn't mean anything in particular and is just part of the culture. Yet you don't usually walk around Canada referring to everyone whose path you cross as "Luv" because it does mean something different over here. People in the Southwest of England will call people "My lover", and again, it is just a cultural term of greeting. Referring to someone as "my lover" has a different context in North America - a rather intimate, carnal context.

How many times have people written on here about the emotional vulnerability of inmates and not giving them the wrong idea, if one's intentions are purely platonic? So yes, i think it could be argued that pointing out how things can or may be taken out of context is not a bad thing.

Look, if OP is indeed a prison boyfriend shopper, then more frickin' power to her. Whatever. Let her hug, kiss, and miss away. More food for the stereotype mill.

 
DanPal

What difference does it make what location people put on their profile?

Not much, I reckon. You see all sorts of real or fantasy locations, and neither of them have any bearing on what the person writes.

However, if you do not disclose your actual location, and it becomes known, then it may affect how people see you, I guess.
It's up to people themselves, how real they feel they can or want to be.

 
Amantha

What difference does it make what location people put on their profile?

If someone picked a good looking pen pal from a state that allows conjugal visits with the sole purpose of marrying said prisoner so they could have sex it still is no ones business.

 
SidVicious

[QUOTE=Earthmother;1177123]Maybe that's one of those cultural difference things. Yet when we're talking about an incarcerated male (or even female for that matter) who has been in prison for a lengthy period of time already and may have been experiencing a lack of companionship/ interaction with members of the opposite sex, it's very easy for at least some of them to read more into things than a simple friendly statement. At the very least, it seems rather hasty to be missing someone [B]after only one letter[/B]. And it is precisely because of different cultural interpretations, that a small warning to perhaps slowing things down a bit on the endearment front might be a good idea.[/QUOTE]

Oh, okay. So any non-American who wants to write to an American prisoner needs to take classes on American culture and forget about their own communication style that is embedded in them before writing that first letter. Is someone going to do the opposite with the American prisoner? Make them take classes on whatever foreign culture before they write back, in order to save feelings and all of that.

Clearly? How so? You can put whatever you want on the "location" part of your profile. It's quite possible, for example, for someone in Minnesota to put their location as "Texas". Now, I'm not saying anyone in Minnesota has given their location as Texas, that's just a random example I drew from the air.

And even if she is in Mexico, doesn't mean her first language isn't English. She may have emigrated there from an English-speaking country. Or anywhere else. Her first language could be Japanese, for all we know.

It's the Internet. All is never as it seems.

So what you're saying is that it's quite likely you're not really from Nebraska. You could be from a different continent. Right? Just because you may be shady doesn't mean everyone else is. I believe she's from Mexico City and I believe English isn't her first language (judging by the way she typed). I also suspect she really is from Mexico because Mexicans love to give abrazos y besos, even if they don't know you very well. So yes, to me she is CLEARLY from Mexico and CLEARLY did not immigrate to Mexico from an English-speaking country.

 
Amantha

Maybe the inmate is okay with it. She said he wrote her back so you have no idea what was said between the two of them. Unless she specifically asked if she should end her letters that way it really IS no ones business. We all have written only a handful of inmates. We can't possibly know if that is how all inmates feel out of the 2.2 million people in prison. This relationship is between her and the inmate she is writing. If they got married tomorrow it would still be her business because it doesn't affect anyone but them.

 
Rjw

OP is clearly from Mexico, which means her native language isn't English. When Spanish speakers send hugs and kisses (abrazos y besos) it's not in an "Oooh I love you!" sort of way.

Clearly? How so? You can put whatever you want on the "location" part of your profile. It's quite possible, for example, for someone in Minnesota to put their location as "Texas". Now, I'm not saying anyone in Minnesota has given their location as Texas, that's just a random example I drew from the air.

And even if she is in Mexico, doesn't mean her first language isn't English. She may have emigrated there from an English-speaking country. Or anywhere else. Her first language could be Japanese, for all we know.

It's the Internet. All is never as it seems.

 
Earthmother

OP is clearly from Mexico, which means her native language isn't English. When Spanish speakers send hugs and kisses (abrazos y besos) it's not in an "Oooh I love you!" sort of way.

Maybe that's one of those cultural difference things. Yet when we're talking about an incarcerated male (or even female for that matter) who has been in prison for a lengthy period of time already and may have been experiencing a lack of companionship/ interaction with members of the opposite sex, it's very easy for at least some of them to read more into things than a simple friendly statement. At the very least, it seems rather hasty to be missing someone [B]after only one letter[/B]. And it is precisely because of different cultural interpretations, that a small cautionary statement to perhaps slowing things down a bit on the endearment front might be a good idea.

 
SidVicious

OP is clearly from Mexico, which means her native language isn't English. When Spanish speakers send hugs and kisses (abrazos y besos) it's not in an "Oooh I love you!" sort of way.

 
Rjw

What you put in the public domain, becomes public business.

 
auroraborealis

thank u very much i was confused about the emails or mails, he wrote me so i´m gonna send a him a mail, not an e mail i was confused about that , and the one that said the hugs and kiss stuff and that i am looking for boyfriend it is not your business
thank u

 
Rjw

If this is the dude then his address is on the ad.

WriteAPrisoner.com - Jason Smith 's Pen-Pal Profile

Since it doesn't look like he is looking for a girlfriend, I'd cut back on the hugs and kisses stuff. You don't want to overwhelm him. Spend time getting to know him as a friend. That's what he asked for in his ad.

 
Earthmother

If he wrote you a letter, there will be a return address on the envelope in which he sent the letter. If you've lost the letter, then look him up on the Write a prisoner website and get his mailing address again. Easiest way to do this is to type his name and write a prisoner in your search engine search box. If you write him a snail mail letter, be sure to put your own address on the envelope, or the letter will most likely not be delivered to him.

Illinois inmates do not have access to Jpay emailing or any other emailing service, so you won't be able to use email to communicate with him. It will have to be snail mail only.

And seeing as you've only started communicating with this person, maybe slow down on the hugs and kisses front - unless you're purposely looking for a boyfriend.

 
SidVicious

Scratch everything in my post. You can't email with Jpay in Illinois.

 
SidVicious

They have J Pay. Set up an account with them and "e-mail" your heart out.