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bertha.jorkins
bertha.jorkins

Hello all!

I posted this extremely long explanation for this question on the general prison section, but I thought it may belong more here (if it matters) I will condense my issue 😊 I am writing to an inmate that I did not find on a site. So, he was not “advertising” for pen pals. I found his case and it touched my heart and hit close to home for the reason of his incarceration. He answered my first few messages through JPay and then I didn’t hear. So after a few weeks I just sent “in case you didn’t get my last reply-since I know that sometimes JPay can have issues-I don’t want you to think I just stopped writing. I hope you are well and take good care of yourself”. His answer, without a drawn out explanation from me, was that he was unexpectedly transferred to a max due to getting in trouble for something he wasn’t involved with and he was sorry but things were hard right now. So my answer was no apology needed, I was sorry that he was going through that, if he ever gets settled and wants someone to talk to I am here and he can feel free to write if and when. So about a month goes by and he does write me again. He is transferred back to mid etc. (so HE got back in touch with me) we wrote back and forth several times back to back as quickly as the system allows. Then I said something inadvertently sexual-ish in nature. It was a double entendre and I didn’t realize it. Until his reply with some winky faces. So he was finally loosening up after fairly formal-ish interchange. So my answer was more personal/informal/joking.  And now he hasn’t answered me in almost a week.  I know things can happen obvs. JPay can take awhile, he could have gotten a punishment, sick, a new job etc etc. also I forgot to mention that before he got moved to the max his tablet had broken and he had ordered a new one. So he was writing me at the kiosk. Which is another potential obstacle. The last message I got from him said he got notified that his tablet finally shipped so he would have it in a few weeks. So I am now kind of obsessing because I would die of embarrassment if I had offended him in some way in my last email. Since I was trying to be more funny/jokey and my sense of humor (dry/sarcastic) doesn’t always  translate well to a written format. How long should I wait before emailing to say I hope that I didn’t offend you in anyway and if I did I am  sorry? Or should I not even do that and just let it lie? After all I starting emailing him un-solicited. Thank you in advance for any adviceÂ