Dear Jazzdre, I can very much relate to that. And I think that you are right about this, you are doing time with him. You, your family, and all his other LO are punished along with him. Every birthday, Christmas, graduation, marriage, and all those other main events in your family's history are not the same without him. All those memories are made without him being present at the time. And it's hard, to have a brother and not have him at the same time. You can never pick up the phone and ask him for advice, joke with him, or complain about him to your mom.
You have to wait for a long time to have your brother back in the space that he left in the family. So, yes you are doing time with him.
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Dear Jazzdre, I can very much relate to that. And I think that you are right about this, you are doing time with him. You, your family, and all his other LO are punished along with him. Every birthday, Christmas, graduation, marriage, and all those other main events in your family's history are not the same without him. All those memories are made without him being present at the time. And it's hard, to have a brother and not have him at the same time. You can never pick up the phone and ask him for advice, joke with him, or complain about him to your mom.
You have to wait for a long time to have your brother back in the space that he left in the family. So, yes you are doing time with him.
I wish you lots of strength and courage!