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Hello, my name is Alister james  I'm 30 years old and I live in India. I am currently working with sloshout.com as well as, working full time at a chemical plant called zep. I have dog which is a french bulldog female named Mazie. I have a best friend who is currently serving time, so I understand how things are and how important it is to have someone who cares and understands and will be there for you. I'm a laid-back introvert. I like music, and learning new things and I'm a good listener, caring, supportive, and loving. I'll give you the same vibes/energy you give me. Whatever happens, happens. I like to use Online social media platforms

Kirsten
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Hi Bry,

good on you for wanting to write a prisoner. The thing is, they don't have access to the internet. (Some have their own cellphones, but that's illegal, as you can imagine.)

So, if you want to be a friend for a prisoner, it'll have to be you to make the first step.

Now you may say: "But I did!" and I say: "Uhm... not quite." I know you registered here (otherwise we wouldn't be writing right now), but this is a message board with a few forums. That was a form of communication which was very popular at the beginning of internet. It's not that much known and up to date anymore to the young digital natives, who now use social media in a completely different way. But what the middle aged to older generation states about social media nowadays, sounds very much alike to what the even older generation (now 70 or 80 years old) said 25 years ago about messageboards. So... *grin*, it's an old story repeating itself, I guess. 

And now you come to an older form of communication (message boards) to revitalize an even STILL older form of communication: letter writing. If that isn't an amazing step of bridge-building, tell me what is. ;-)

The important thing is: In that old art of communication you've gotta choose who is the recipient of your message. It won't just go into the orbit or to an unknown, possibly infinite public audience you don't know llike it does on social media or the internet (unless you choose to share content only with those you confirmed a connection with via friendship request).

Here, through the ads you've got thousands of friendship request, but the answer (your letter) will go to one specific person. Of course, not only, the mailroom is gonna read it as well, but in the end, it will be one specific person, with their unique friendship request aka penpal ad, who will receive your answer. So, you'll have to be meticulus, because you've got to choose who that person will be.

To make sure your choice will be sustainable and enriching for both of you (your new friend and you) you gotta answer yourself a few questions that may help you find some criteria to choose:

1) Are you willing to be in for the long haul? If you're not sure yet, choose a short-termer.  If you should notice in a few months or in a year that prison penpalling isn't for you, there isn't much lost for a person who may have two years to go. But it might hurt someone who'll never get out, if they put high hopes to you and you'll leave.

2) Are there certain crimes you're not able to deal with?

3) Do you prefer a certain age range? For me, this has never been much of an issue, but many ppl find it easier to write someone who is around their own age.

4) Some ppl prefer writing with ppl of the same race as their own, for others, this is not an issue, either.

5) Do you have a certain interest/hobby that you might wish to share with a new friend? (Search for keywords in profiles, if yes).

6) Read inmate blogs on this site. I've written to ppl because a blog entry added beautifully to their pp ad and it was a good thing to do.

In short: Browse through profiles and blogs, get an idea of who someone is and then choose whose friendship request aka penpal ad to respond to.

Good luck and happy writing!

Kirsten    

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Hey y'all, my name is Bryanna but you can call me Bry, I'm 29 years old and I live in Kingston, Ga. I am currently working on my associates degree in medical billing and coding as well as, working full time at a chemical plant called zep. I have dog which is a french bulldog female named Mazie. I have a best friend who is currently serving time, so I understand how things are and how important it is to have someone who cares and understands and will be there for you. I'm a laid back introvert. I like music, learning new things and im a good listener, caring, supportive, loving. I'll give you the same vibes/energy you give me. Whatever happens, happens.