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sarahcs24
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Last Names

I'm sure this has been asked. But I've read the rules and such and wasn't provided much assurance regarding revealing a last name. Has anyone ever had any problems? It's on my letter, where it sits sealed up in an envelope ready to go, but I'm hesitating a little bit. 

sarahcs24
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To add: I did not include my name on the outside of the envelope. Just return address.

LotusBlossom
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I've never had any problems related to my pen pals knowing my last name.  I do use my middle name but I always do in person too, and online.  My PPs who I call/visit with know my full name though as I had to give my ID to the prison and get added to their list.  I always put my name on the outside of the envelope though with the return address so the prison knows who it is from, sometimes they won't accept it without a name on it because they have a list of people that are not allowed to send in mail, due to security issues.  It depends on the facility or not if they will accept it without a name included with the return address.  

ST4s
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Well, if you look at this through a social interaction lens, which let’s face it, it is, and the person receiving your letter has already broadcast their first and last name, address, maybe a photo, and probably a whole lot more, I’ve always thought the best way to reply is in kind – hitting ‘em right back with the very same information. I think it telegraphs respect when meeting someone for the first time, like handshakes and introductions do – no matter who you're meeting or where they are.

I was super-cautious at first and weighed this very question myself, but thought about it some more and just went for it. It has yet to backfire, or rather, it’s always been well received. Best of luck :-)