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walter1

I have a question. I have been writing someone on the site for a  few yrs. If for some reason they start writing other people, will i be notified or is there any way for me to know if he is writing others now?

 
Anne marie HH

Walter...again..if you're 'only' writing this.person as a PP..then it shouldn't really matter if they are writing just you or 100 others, but if it's turned into a relationship , then you should just ask the inmate if its just the 2 of you or if there are other PPs, and if so, in what capacity, tell them you'd rather that they were honest with you rather than find out off of here or some other site.

 
Kirsten

Well, I guess, without trusting a person you can't build anything - whatever kind of relation, be it friendship or romantic or whatever else.

And well, you really NEVER know if anyone (inside or outside) is true or not. To get to know people you've got to trust them or rather build up trust with them. If they prove the opposite, then you can still take it back, but without building trust slowly you probably won't get anywhere in the long run.

Given the situation that one person is in prison for committing a crime and the other isn't, adds on to this as we in the free world tend to believe that someone who is in prison isn't trustworty or at least less so than we are. This may or may not be true and there are ppl who are lying on both sides of the fence. Only time, common sense, gut feelings and your experiences with a person will tell you which is which.

Good luck!

 
walter1

well i guess i am just curious if he is lying to me

 

 
Kirsten

Why should anyone notify me if he has more than one penpal?

I mean, I do have more than one penpal as well, so where's the problem? Can you have too many friends? Is there anything like that?

Love relationships are another thing, yes, but frankly: People aren't possessions, people can and do decide, if, with whom, in what way and for how long they're going to be with someone. 

 
Glittergluemoon

You won’t get notified unless he tells you. I always encourage my penfriends to have more penfriends than only me, prison is a lonely place .

 
Anne marie HH

Nope you won t get notified. It all depends in what capacity you guys are writing. If its a relationship and you find out they re haveing a relationship with others, well, gonna be painful. Usually they always get found out at some point cos PPs get excited and brag or describe " their guy/gal and thats when you find out. If your jyst writing as a pen pal..it shouldn t matter too much if they have other pen pals