Hi everyone!
So I'm relatively new to this whole thing, hence my previous posts. My PP and I have been writing for a few weeks now and I am expecting a letter from him today (I use USPS Informed Delivery so I can see what is coming before it arrives). Informed Delivery also shows an image of the envelope and he actually wrote his last name after mine on the letter. In his previous few letters he expressed that he has feelings for me, wants to build with me, have kids/get married, etc. We have only been writing a short time and obviously we have never met. Now I know it's common for inmates to be very lonely in prison. He has been in for quite some time and still has about 3 years left. Is this a red flag? Should I ask him to tone it down? What do I even do? My friend is concerned now that he has my address. I wouldn't say I'm concerned but it's a little bit strange. I am chalking it up to just being in prison and needing something to hold onto. He's about 4 hours away from me if that matters.
ANY insight is great...
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Hey there, I have been writing/ talking to my "PP" for just over 3 years now. From the first conversation we had which was over the phone (I had responded to an ad online his sister put up) he was very flirtatious and expressed his need for a solid woman in his life. I am single too and not opposed to the idea so i went along with it and things progressed kinda quick and we began saying I love you within the first year. Now the second year comes around and all is still good we talk almost daily and message thru gettingout.com all the time and i occasionally write him. Then one day I go on facebook and i type in his name and tah duh up pops a page with his and another chicks names like mr and mrs blah blah. There was all these obviously photo shopped pictures of the two of them as well as prison pics he has also sent to me. Being the woman i am i messaged this profile immediately and said hey how did you and your fiance meet?? She messaged me back and said she met him the same way i did and from there we compared info and letters and guess what...everything was the exact same! He told us the same crap! I met him about 5 months before they met so it really hurt. We look nothing alike like nothing at all alike LOL she even said wow your really pretty hes probably really into you and just lying to me cause i send him money all the time (i never sent anything and he always had money on his phone to call me). When confronted about it he said hes just so lonely and she put money on his books but i continued to ask well what about all the things you said that were exactly the same to us like he dedicated a song to me and drew cute lil drawings for me with my name on em and he did the same crap for her. Thats what really set me off! Well he never had a good reason for any of that of course so fast forward to now, we still communicate he gets in trouble alot and is always in the hole but he still calls and we keep in touch. All the love dovey and feeelings have faded away cause i cant and wont forget the fact that he had/has this scheme going on and i only found out about one but theres probably many more. So to answer your question personally i think this is just what they do when in prison they are desperate and lonely but they can have good intentions its so hard to tell so id say always keep your guard up a lil bit. Best of luck :)
Sorry but that's definitely a red flag. Maybe you should ask him to tone it down in a way that doesn't provoke him. And tell him you moved to a different state and send some fake proof. Really make him believe you moved far away so that he won't bother looking for you where you are now. I might sound overly dramatic and paranoid but obsession can be deadly. And you might think "oh no I don't think this guy would ever do anything that bad", hon, he's in prison. Of course he would. If he loses control of himself and you are his focal point then you can expect to be visited at some point.
Maybe I just watch too much youtube though. Maybe he will take it well when you ask him to back off a bit. But personally I agree with your friend.